Has your relationship lost all meaning and fulfillment? Here's what might be happening.
Ever looked at your partner after many years together and had that sinking realization that the relationship has lost all meaning and fulfillment?
And in fact, if you really think about it, you’ve been feeling trapped and unfulfilled for years – but you can’t leave because it’s too huge to even think about, and what about the kids?
You’re not arguing, nor are you having big blow ups and drama. It’s more like you’re just floating through, co-parenting, lying in bed beside each other, both scrolling in silence, getting on with things…
But it feels …flat?
If so, it’s highly possible that you’ve got blocks around intimacy and love, and these are preventing you from having the meaningful connection you desire and deserve.
Let me explain.
These blocks have likely always been there.
Even when the relationship was in its infancy, happy and buoyant, easy and carefree. You just didn’t have sufficient depth and intimacy to have hit these blocks yet – because often they take time to emerge. Years, in fact.
Because they’re buried deep in the subconscious.
And these blocks are often so hidden from our view that we don’t even know we have them until we find ourselves hitting a brick wall with our partner, and wondering when did we fall out of love with them.
Yes, maybe you have fallen out of love with your partner, and perhaps you're not meant to be together at all.
But it’s also highly likely that it’s these blocks getting in the way from feeling what’s really there, and this is what you need to solve for if you want your relationship back – and even better than it was before.
Now, what are these blocks?
These blocks are subconscious protective strategies your nervous system (aka your operating system) adopted to survive past experiences of emotional threat - things like neglect, criticism, emotional absence, or feeling like your needs weren’t safe to express.
They show up as overthinking, emotional shutdown, withdrawal, resentment, control, or people-pleasing.
You might intellectually want closeness and intimacy - but your internal operating system still sees it as unsafe. So it pushes connection away, without you even realizing it.
This is all subconscious and not something you will be consciously aware of.
How do these blocks flare up in intimacy?
Over time, these can flare up
Let’s say your partner reaches out to hug you, or brings up something emotional. Instead of softening into the moment, you feel an urge to pull away - or you suddenly change the topic, pick a fight, or scroll your phone.
Or maybe they ask for more connection… and it irritates you.
Or perhaps you find yourself feeling more and more bored of the relationship, craving more range and variety, thrill and excitement, and rather than talking to your partner about it, you believe that they will shut you down, so you don’t say anything…and get that fulfillment elsewhere. Aka infidelity, porn, whatever it might be.
It’s easier to do thatt han have to confront them and deal with the drama, right?
That resistance, that shutdown, that pulling away energy…
Is the block.
And it’s not personal. It’s your operating system doing its best to keep you safe from feeling too vulnerable, too exposed, or too disappointed.
Because as a child, you likely felt very under threat with this. So it’s just a survival mechanism.
How do you eliminate these blocks?
We use my 3-part Successfully in Love® Method to dissolve these patterns at the root:
Liberate: Identify the exact subconscious strategies your body is using to protect you in relationships, without shame or blame, and clear them out. This helps us reset your inner response to intimacy, so it feels safe to receive love, not just give it.
Reconnect Once the blocks are gone, we get really clear on what you need to feel happy long term - and what is missing in your life, so as to find sustainable strategies for fulfillment.
Create We install practical, science-based frameworks for communication, emotional leadership, and sustainable connection - so you’re not just emotionally aware, you’re emotionally equipped.
It’s a potent method that works incredibly fast because it’s so focused.
What happens when these blocks are gone?
You feel lighter. Like you’re finally free for the first time in years. You will stop questioning everything, and show up calm, clear, and capable of giving and receiving intimacy. And above all, you’ll feel free to reconnect to yourself - first. Because it’s from there that everything changes: your relationship, your inner peace, your connection, your joy, your freedom and fulfillment.
If you're ready to stop feeling flat in your life and start feeling alive again -
Message me today.
I’ll be glad to share more about how my method works, case studies, and how I can help you too.
