Trying to avoid arguing with your partner - again? Here's what might be happening
Ever find yourself walking on eggshells with your partner, afraid of causing problems and arguments starting that make you feel overwhelmed and attacked?
You’re so wary of avoiding arguments, that you avoid things - and when things build up, they turn into a huge confrontation that goes nowhere, and just leaves you feeling stuck, powerless and trapped?
If so, it’s likely you’ve got internal subconscious blocks around letting yourself be seen and heard, which stem from your childhood…
…and are now keeping you in a position of staying small and afraid with your partner.
Which makes you bite your tongue and hold back what you really want to say (and what you need to say)
Leading you to avoid things, keep quiet, and walk around on eggshells.
It also means you’re so used to staying small, that you haven’t built a strong muscle around confrontation -
And rejection feels overwhelming to you, so you avoid it even more.
The outcome is that you end up feeling more and more resentful over time…
…And the things you really want from your relationship, from your partner
E.g. more intimacy, more freedom, more fun, more connection
Maybe even more time alone and freedom to pursue your own adventure and growth
Is something you’re too afraid to ask for
Because of the potential conflict and rejection on the other side.
And eventually the resentment builds up and up and up…
Until you can’t take it anymore, and file for divorce
Which ironically becomes a huge confrontation and a very painful mess to have to clean up.
So, the solution here for you, is to tackle things head on and:
Identify the root cause of your problems, those subconscious blocks
Clear them out at the root cause level
Get clarity on what you need to be happy long term
Build the muscle of getting these needs met - through healthy communication, strong boundaries, emotional regulation, and so on.
All of this is very doable and quite easy to learn, once you have a clear roadmap with a step by step process to do this.
Which is precisely what I teach all my clients.
I know how challenging relationships can be - how messy, fraught, and loaded they are.
The stakes are high, and emotions run wild
And it can seem overwhelming and scary to tackle - I get it
And having called off my own first engagement and done couples counselling twice (which did not help - it kept us stuck in blaming each other and talking about the problem for months on end without any clear resolution)
I know how important it is to have a clear step by step process to this.
Which is exactly what I created with my proprietary methodology, and what I am proud of teaching my clients.
If you’d like to free yourself from your fear, feel confident and excited in your relationship, empowered and clear on what to do next, then I can help you.
In fact, I’ll help you rekindle your joy and passion in life so that you feel like a giddy teenager, ready to take on your next adventure, with your loving and devoted partner :)
Just message me privately here and I’ll ask a few questions about your situation before setting up time to talk where I can share more about how I help you.
