Why asking ChatGPT for relationship help is a bad idea.

Have you ever asked ChatGPT about what to do about your relationship?

Maybe you’ve asked it what to do about an argument you’re having, and how to respond to them.

Or perhaps you’ve been trying to figure out what to do logistically - do you stay, or go?

If so, then you might be inadvertently making your problems worse.

Tons of studies point to the dangers of using AI to figure out our relationships.

This is something I am getting increasingly passionate about, as more and more folks defer to AI…

And more and more studies come out pointing to the dangers of this.

Because when it comes to relationships, intimacy, and healing - you simply cannot outsource it.

A 2023 report from the University of Cambridge, for example, found that AI responses on relationship topics tend to reinforce emotional avoidance rather than deepen self-awareness - especially for high-functioning users seeking direct answers. This means that whatever you type in - whether it’s a text or a question you want advice with - it is going to point you towards a more avoidant response. Retreating into yourself, hiding your true feelings, being more introverted…rather than vulnerable, courageous, messy, and honest.

And what is intimacy, if not honest and messy?

Another study by MIT Media Lab showed that emotionally loaded prompts (e.g., "Should I leave my partner?") often lead to generic or conflicting advice from AI, depending on how the prompt is worded. The result is inevitably, more confusion, rather than less. Plus, let’s remember - this is a language model, it’s not God or a psychic - it is going to base its answers based on how you word your question, and on the historic answers before you. It is not going to be reading your body language, deciphering your subconscious mind, or figuring out what you really need.

Another study by Stanford concluded that users relying on AI-generated emotional advice were less likely to take meaningful real-world action, because AI sidesteps accountability and embodiment. So the more you outsource to ChatGPT, the less likely you are to do anything - which includes taking embodied action.

And that’s where the real work happens, where the magic takes place: in the embodied action.

When you follow advice that isn't rooted in your unique emotional history, or your lived dynamics, it ultimately will derail your decision-making. You’ll start intellectualizing instead of discerning, numbing out more and more, and escaping outside of yourself rather than going inward.

The reality is, you can’t outsource your intimacy.

You cannot outsource your relationship.

To really get clarity on what to do, or how to speak to your partner, you need to learn these fundamental skills. They are non-negotiable:

• How to discern what’s really going on for you.

• What your triggers actually mean.

• Why you’re reacting the way you are.

• The subtext beneath your partner’s behavior—and yours.

• How to identify and clear patterns and emotional blocks at their root.

• How to reconnect with what you actually need, not just what you're craving.

• How to communicate those needs with strength and self-respect.

• How to embody intimacy—not perform it.

None of this is something ChatGPT can do for you.

Yes, it can name concepts. It might even give you a framework.

But it will never see you.

It will never sense the tension in your voice.

It will never hold you accountable for the hard conversations.

It will never help you discern what’s really going on beneath what you say - in the unspoken things, the subconscious slips, the hidden patterns.

You have to do that. You have to embody it. And you simply cannot outsource this.

The fastest, most effective way to change your relationship, for good, is by working with a seasoned practitioner who can help you get clear, fast.

By teaching you what to do, and then helping you do it.

That’s precisely what my Successfully in Love® methodology is designed to do.

If you want to learn how this process works, watch: www.successfullyinlove.com/litestimonial

That video is tailored for people in relationships, but if you’re single or navigating personal growth, it still applies. Here’s a variation on the model for those of you looking for a more general leveling up: www.successfullyinlovewithlife.com

If you want change, stop outsourcing.

Stop searching for certainty in chatboxes and with bots!

And instead, please start taking responsibility for your emotional growth, wellbeing, and embodied integrity.

Message me today.

P.S. Funnily enough, my first iteration of this business was called Embodied Integrity. Looks like we’re coming full circle, and AI wasn't even half as prevalent back then!