Why is your partner no longer passionate in the relationship?

Are you feeling frustrated with your partner for not being passionate enough in the relationship - it feels like they don’t really care anymore?

Perhaps you travel a lot for work, and when you’re gone, it’s like they don’t miss you at all - they don’t call or text that often, and there’s no real sense of yearning.

Or when you’re home, and they’re there, scrolling on instagram on the couch next to you, it feels like they just don’t care about how your day has gone, or what’s going on for you - they’re in their little bubble, oblivious to the fact you’re feeling disconnected.

If so, it’s highly likely that your partner actually WANTS to be passionate but has actually shut down in the relationship themselves…

And their current lack of passion, is actually their survival response to feeling disconnected and lonely as well.

It’s not that they don’t care about you - they likely do.

It’s more likely that they’ve also struggled with the relationship and their own feelings about it…

Haven’t known what to do or say

Perhaps they’ve felt shut out and shut down

And so they’ve…completeley shut down themselves.

So the solution for you here lies in working to reignite that relationship by first of all:

• Tending to your own inner landscape and the resentment, hurt, loneliness, and disconnect happening there

• Addressing it with your partner, later.

You cannot do step 2 - addressing it with your partner - until you have processed and cleared the stuff that you have going on, though.

Because if you try to address this with your partner, perhaps telling them over dinner how disconnected you’re feeling, or asking them to put their phone down whilst they’re watching TV…

…Your own internal system and energy is going to be one of resentment and hurt, so the delivery is likely going to be ineffective.

You might snap at them, be angry, defensive, or even passive aggressive.

Or perhaps you just won’t say anything at all, because you don’t want to start yet another fight.

And then the conflict starts, your partner gets defensive, you feel unheard and upset, and then you shut down, then they shut down and then….

…nothing is resolved.

It’s a vicious cycle.

The best thing that you can do, almost always, in 99% of situations, is to:

• Take ownership and accountability over YOUR side of the street

• Go inward and tend to what is going on for you

• Explore what’s happening at that subconscious level

• Clear any unhelpful blocks that are holding you back and keeping you stuck

• Explore what you need to feel safe, seen, and heard

And only then - at this point - do you come to your partner and speak up to them.

When you’re cleared, your stuff is resolved, you feel calmer, more settled, more regulated

And more clear on what you have to say, why, and how.

This is a MUCH faster way of getting what you want in a relationship - without any drama or yelling or shutting down.

And the beauty of this approach is that your partner will respond much more favourably, and in fact, be inspired to step up and follow you.

The reality is, your partner is likely very passionate and keen to reconnect with you too - they just don’t know how, and they feel shut down as much as you do.

But thankfully, it only takes ONE of you to shift the entire dynamic of the relationship.

And you can be that person!

In fact, you don’t need couples counselling at all. You rarely do. It’s more than enough to work on yourself, step up, level up, and through the beautiful process of attunement, you will inspire your partner to step up too - because they will be responding to YOU, and YOU will be very different. Energetically, emotionally, and literally.

If you want to do this and start now, so you don’t waste any more days and weeks feeling disconnected and disappointed in your relationship, message me.

I have a proprietary framework and methodology to help you - and would love to do that.

I specialize in high level executives, so I know how limited your time can be, and how critical discretion is - I get it, and I know how to help you - fast.

Message me today.

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