One of the biggest reasons I see people fail at improving their relationship

One of the biggest reasons I see people fail at improving their relationship, even when they’re miserable and ostensibly trying to ‘fix it’, is because they think that reading a book on love languages, or scrolling through Instagram and watching reels by various relationship coaches will actually help them.

I mean, my instagram and Tik Tok content are good but heck, I give away maybe 1% of my IP and strategies in there.

Because it’s meant to be clickbait (that’s just the world of marketing) and it’s meant to be short, digestible, and scrollable.

It’s not meant to actually transform your 10+ year relationship.

Nor is a book, which studies show you will only ever retain about 3% of (!!!!!).

Not to mention, when you are scrolling social media thinking you’re ‘learning about relationships’ or reading some godforsaken book, you’re only using a teeny tiny 3% of your brain - your conscious mind - to take in that information.

And the information might be crap, anyway - let’s not forget that love languages were discredited by science years ago…yes, that book itself is more ‘clickbait’.

Your romantic relationship - that living, breathing, messy, emotional, scary, big, heavy, THING - is not something you can just intellectualise or scroll your way through.

Those arguments you have, that feeling in the pit of your stomach, that nagging doubt that you’re maybe with the wrong person, that feeling of being lonely within it…

These aren’t things you can just read your way through.

These are things that live way beneath your conscious mind - deep, buried within you - that you can’t really get to that easily.

They’re often not even things you can ‘think’ about clearly, because so much of it is nestled within your own blind spots.

Nope.

Not even if you’re really smart, and have done everything yourself in your career and life until now.

Not even if you read every relationship book out there.

Not even if you get bloody AI to download every podcast and book and synthesise it into coherent summaries (I literally had a client tell me they did this before they met me.)

And no, chatGPT will not help you figure out the answers because chatGPT is also not able to dig into our blind spots, since chatGPT is 1) operating based on the data out there which is a load of intellectual content, and 2) chatGPT only responds to what you plug into it, which will be dictated by your own blind spots and 3) you will still be unable to embody what you know because you’re the one trying to get yourself out of the mess and you are the one riddled with your own blind spots.

You have to do the embodied stuff.

The deeper stuff.

The subconscious stuff.

The emotional stuff.

And it’s going to be more messy and deep than you’re used to in other areas of your life.

Which is precisely why you benefit from having a structured, clear, step by step way to dig into this stuff and work through it - and practice it.

What I mean is, you’ll likely need external support - a trusted advisor, coach, expert - to help guide you, show you what you need to see, help you hear what you need to hear, know what you need to know, see what you need to see, and do what you need to do -

In a clear, structured, safe way.

So it’s less messy and chaotic than it would be if you were flailing around trying to do it yourself.

And holds you, letting you go deeper, in a way that feels safe and structured.

And lets you overcome your blind spots, because they’re shining a light onto them and helping you see things.

Personally, I like to take my clients through a structured, step by step system, all rooted in science, that takes them from identifying their blind spots in love, relationships, helps them understand what’s really going on for them on that deeper level, gives them clarity and understanding, and shows them how to embody and process the changes tangibly.

I see myself as their guide and scientist, someone who specialises in this (it’s my zone of genius) and does this 24/7.

And because Ive worked with hundreds of folks likely in similar situations to you,  I can predict patterns and spot trends in you the you wouldn’t see in yourself - and another practitioner might miss.

That is, if you’re a hardworking, high achieving professional who struggles with feeling a bit disconnected and unfulfilled in your relationships and romantic life ;)

YOU are my speciality and I know you, and your patterns, like the back of my hand.

In part because I was you (that fully funded scholarship at Oxford was no fluke), and partly because I screwed up my relationships so royally over the years, thinking that I could screen shot my way through instagram and send it to my ex fiancé, hoping things would change.

Sigh.

I read literally every book out there, listened to every podcast, followed every relationship coach, talked about relationships all day, and thought I was an ‘expert’ and still screwed up.

It wasn’t until I did the deeper subconscious work, embodied all that I knew, and took things more scientifically and seriously, that I transformed my life - and relationship - and actually built a career doing this (I am a fiend for this world, I nerd out so hard on relational science).

But I also created my dream marriage, my dream life, and have the most freedom, intimacy, trust, love, connection, and happiness I could ever imagine.

All because I did that deeper embodied stuff.

So, if you want to have a relationship that others envy, if you want to feel like a giddy, loved up happy teenager again, carefree and excited about your life, then I can help you.

DM me READY today.