How do I improve my marriage in 2026?

Here’s the Single Most Strategic New Year’s Resolution to Radically Shift Your Relationship

If you’re a high-functioning professional, you’ve probably already got your goals for your:

• Revenue

• Health

• Investments

• Career

But what about your relationship?

Because if you’re honest, this year was even worse than the last right?

It likely felt heavier, more disconnected, more sad, and more…flat.

So can you imagine another year like this?!

It’s not sustainable.

So if you want next year to look different, here’s where you start:

Set a solid strategic boundary around your relationship.

A boundary for yourself.

Not your partner or your kids.

But YOU!

How long are you willing to stay in this status quo, in this limbo, before something MUST change?

Before you leave?

6 more months of walking on eggshells?

12 more months of feeling emotionally flat?

Set your timeline and get radically honest with it.

That then becomes your timeline of what you are willing to tolerate.

But here’s the key -

Once you’ve drawn that boundary, you must commit to clearing your side of the street first.

Of taking 100% accountability and throwing your all into this. 

Because only then can you know you did your best, you put your all into it, and you can honestly walk away with full confidence that you’re doing the RIGHT thing.

(If that’s even what happens)

(You may end up staying and feeling great about that because your relationship dramatically improves)

You create your boundary and use that window to go all in:

• Clearing your subconscious blocks.

 → These are the emotional reflexes, limiting beliefs, and inherited dynamics that keep you stuck in the same cycles, even if your partner never changes. 

Clearing these will serve you for life, irrespective of what happens.

So at best, you clear the blocks and your relationship drastically improves and you live happily ever after with your partner.

At worst, you clear the blocks and you feel drastically better within yourself, and are able to walk away feeling great about your life anyway, confident you won’t repeat the same mistakes.

It’s a win win.

• Own your communication patterns.

 → Are you defensive? Are you people pleasing? Are you over-accommodating? Do you check out when it gets hard?

Your communication skills = skills for life, too. 

Why not treat this relationship as practice ground to improve your skillset, so that whether you stay with your partner or find someone even better, you are equipped for life?

• Get clear on your needs, values, and non-negotiables.

 → Most people are unhappy because they have no real idea about what they need.

They know what they want - the car, the house, the income.

But what do you NEED?

Most people are totally blocked in this arena.

So it follows then, if your needs aren’t getting met, you’re going to feel crap in your relationship.

So how can you possibly know how you really feel in your relationship, or whether they’re the  right person for you, if you’re blocked?

If you have no idea what you really need?

Doesn’t it follow that you should get clear on that FIRST, and solve for that FIRST, before you make any rash decisions?

So clear the blocks, discover your needs, communicate them and communicate better  - and then see what happens in your relationship.

If after 6 months, nothing changes or things get worse…

You have your answer.

But until you have done this, you’re going to have a ton of regret - whether you stay or go.

Because you'll never really know what the right thing to do is/was.

Since you kept operating from a blocked perspective.

I did this very process in a past relationship.

I gave myself a 6-month window.

I got a relationship coach.

I got radically honest with myself.

I invested time, money, and energy (about 15 minutes a day - it wasn’t anything crazy) because I wanted to know, with total certainty, whether this was worth continuing.

I was diligent and rolled my sleeves up.

And at the end of those six months - I KNEW.

So I walked away with no regrets. Just peace in my heart and 100% certainty.

11 months later, I serendipitously met my husband.

Because I wasn’t carrying the same emotional blocks and baggage into the next chapter.

I’d cleared them out, knew what I needed, and could communicate.

Fast forward years to the happiest relationship yet. :)

Some of my clients follow the same arc - 6 months in, and they exit with peace and certainty.

Others find their marriage improves dramatically.

Because for the first time, one person is leading with accountability, direction, ownership, and emotional congruence - and that’s often all it takes to shift the entire dynamic.

It’s magical stuff, really.

So stop dithering. Start boundary setting.

Then get support for yourself.

Because it’s YOUR life.

And the fastest way to change it is to stop waiting for your partner to go first.

If this is your year to do it differently, message me.

I am now taking on clients for Q1.

Message me today.