Can you save a struggling relationship?
Can you save a struggling relationship?
Maybe, but only if you do this….
Two words:
Get help.
Now, I know what you’re probably thinking
"I can handle this alone! I don't need anyone else's help."
"Of course she says that"
"I'm FINE!"
Then you’re exactly who needs to hear this right now.
Because if you’re an ambitious professional - you’ve likely been extremely competent your whole life.
You’ve built companies, led teams, driven results that most people could only dream about.
And you’re relentless with problem solving, and getting things done.
You're excellent at it, in fact.
And so logically, of course you figure you can fix your relationship alone.
But the horrible reality is that your romantic relationship is different from all the other projects, deals, and problems you’ve had to solve.
This isn’t something you can just outwork.
Or put your mind to and figure out.
Or strategize, or analyze, or think through.
Not consciously, anyway.
When your relationship or marriage feels like it's unraveling, when every conversation feels like walking on eggshells, when you’re feeling so disconnected and trapped in it and you can’t figure out why - you can’t just "handle it alone."
Because if you could, you would have by now, right?
And because relationships aren’t projects you can manage with strategy, lots of thinking, and brute force.
You can’t logic your way back to connection or work your way out of disconnection.
It’s not a KPI you can just hit with more effort.
Your romantic relationship is a totally different beast.
It’s emotional, it’s embodied, it’s subconscious.
It IS mysterious and it ISN'T something reading a book will solve for you.
It’s something that requires you to see past your blind spots, dig deep into your subconscious mind, and work with your trapped emotions, past pains, and all the more vague stuff that you can’t really see on a day to day basis.
Because that’s the stuff that's flaring up and making your relationship feel the way it is.
It’s an inside job and an inside project - at least for the most part.
Which you simply can’t do alone at this stage.
Heck, even I couldn’t fix my previous relationship when I was struggling - and I worked in behavioral science!
I literally had the tools at my finger tips to figure it out, and I was knee deep in psychology daily, and still needed some support to maneouvre me in the right direction.
And I get it - you're hesitant to bring anyone else into the fold.
It's private, it's intimate.
And you’ve built your life around self-reliance.
Asking for help feels alien to you - heck, maybe even feels like weakness.
But it’s not.
It’s smart, it’s the strategic thing to do.
In fact, the biggest power moves you can make often involve knowing WHEN to bring in someone who is an expert.
You do this all the time at work, right? ;)
The reality is, high achievers don’t get to the top by doing everything alone.
They get there by leveraging the right expertise at the right time.
In business, in your finances, at the gym, and so on.
And when it comes to your relationship - the most high-stakes part of your life - it’s time to consider that what got you here won’t get you there.
If this is resonating with you, you probably don’t need another book, another podcast, or another late-night session watching YouTube videos :)
You need a strategic, confidential, high-level plan of action.
One that is tailored to you, by someone who gets it, gets your high stakes situation and can help.
And that's precisely what I specialize in.
I work with high-achieving professionals exactly like you, unraveling the mystery and complexity of relationships and how you’re feeling, and gets to the crux of the problem fast - and without the awful “healing” language you’ve been avoiding.
I help folks discern whether to stay or go, fix their marriage if they stay, and strategize their exit if they leave. I even help them find love after divorce (or if they come to me single!).
I have a structured, step by step, systematic and science based program to help you - it’s helped tons of executives in your position before.
I’ll be glad to share it with you on a call.
If you’re ready to get the support you know you deserve, DM me READY.
